Is your Child the one Parenting you?

As a mother of three, I believe family structure gets shook up different times in the growing stage. When I realized that my children thought it was a terrible thing when we went to Wal-Mart and they didn't get to buy a toy the world was coming to an end. It was time for me to take back control of the rules... the behavior.

First, lets find out are you in a rut.

1) Do you feel responsible when your child is unhappy?

2) You feel like you have to give your child everything because you had to do without growing up?

3) You feel like they got your number?

4) Are you feeling resentful?

5) You give every single time they ask.

So maybe you said yes to 2 or 3 of the questions. Okay You said Yes to all of them. It's okay. We aren't going to waste time figuring out where we went wrong. Lets put the parenting back in your hands.

1) Realize Children really don't want all the power. They really don't. I have a friend who is raising her nephew because he says he likes being at her house because there are rules. So don't give in but teach your child to control the emotions when they don't get to buy a toy from Wal-Mart. Try saying " I know you are upset that your not getting that toy today. Its okay to be sad. I have wanted things before and did not get them. "

2) So you are giving in because you had to do without as a child. Well stop.
Are you jumping in to your child's demands because you feel the emptiness?
Do not look for the attention and love in your child that you did not receive as a child. Recognize what your needs are and work on them.

3) You are not the person in charge of her or his feelings. If he is mad, that is his choice. You are responsible for your feelings.

4) You get what you allow. So stop allowing the demands.

5) Remember they are young and they are learning how to live in this world. Giving in to the demands is not going to help them all the time. So acknowledge their wants and teach them a way they can save money to buy the toy or how they can learn to do a few things on their own. As a parent, your not meant to be a slave. Don't give, give, give and not ever get anything back.

Remember to keep a balance in your family and you will soon find success.
Let them be the child and you be in the control Parent and they will love you for it.

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Chaele is a work at home. She is happily married to Paul and they have three children. She owns The Perfect Image (www.theperfectimage.us) and is the Outreach Manager for Sunrise Retreats Healing Therapy (www.SunriseRetreats.com).

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