Get your needs met by meeting his needs.

Women have needs. We all know that because you hear us complain in our networks. You talk to your best girlfriends about our needs but are we doing the right things to get our needs met?

After being married for a couple of years my husband and I were put to a test. After confiding in a friend of mine, Ken Unger at Sunrise Retreats. The way I thought about men had completely changed. Women want to be loved. Men want to be respected. I had a long talk with my husband. My eyes were wide open afterwards.

This article is not for you to change your man! Look at the histroy of our Grandmothers, Mothers, Aunts. This will not happen. This is just a few tips to help you improve your relationship with your husband. I know it has improved mine!

1) Men do like to be loved on. Are you in a routine when it comes to your love life? Is he the one always have to be in control under the sheets? Stop watching the calendar and see if today is the day we have our monthly get together! I am not saying to say Yes every time he ask. Some people this question might be asked 100 times a day but dont make it where he is the only one doing the asking! Call him and let him know you are really missing him and you can’t wait to go to bed tonight. Write a note and put it in his lunch. Connect with you husband. Think about how we work all day on the computer, taking care of the kids how much a kiss and hug is welcomed. How much we appreciate him when he says we look cute or pretty even though we can’t remember the last time we brushed our hair. He should get the same attention. He works all day to provide. Make him feel loved.

2) Take care of you. I had stopped putting on make up because I work at home. I had started wearing my comfortable sweats. One day I had put on a little of lipstick and pulled out my jeans.
He asked me “Did you go to the grocery store today?” I replied “No, Why do you ask?” I did NOT like his answer but it was the truth. I had let myself go. Im not saying dress up every day but take care of you! Go to the gym. Go get a haircut. Take care of you. It really does matter to him and I have found if you are taking care of you... your love life increases!

3)Trust your man. There are times I don’t see where he is going. I have seen him make some bad decisions but trust him. When you show you trust him it also shows that you respect him. This is very hard for me to do. It is hard to let go and let them take over but think about it. They do it every day for us! They trust us to take care of the kids. They trust us to pay the bills. They trust us to take care of them! Trust your man to take care of you. You don’t have to always agree but go along with him.

4) Every day make his life better. This is a hard one to day. At times my schedule gets full and I neglect him. You hear Dr. Phil say this all the time. It works. Work every day to make his life better. I know Paul likes a clean house. I work every day to give him this. I let him know everyday how much I appreciate him. I fix his lunch and add little Thank you notes. I even put out his clothes because I know that helps him sleep in for 10 more minutes. Every day affirm that he is a wonderful husband! Make his life better and your life will become better!

5) Believe and love your husband unconditionally!

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Michaele McMillan is happily married to Paul. They have three children. She owns Mom State University (www.momstateuniversity.com) and a Photography Business.

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